The Zen of Playing at Seeking

   Is it possible to have ten pairs of reading glasses and lose them all in the same afternoon? lost glasses

“I don’t know where my glasses are,” Mom tells me. I bite my lip; she’s been misplacing things all day. We are supposed to be spending a day drawing and painting, trying to connect mom with the artist she used to be. We are supposed to bake cookies together and look through magazines. But I’ve been spending much of the time crawling around, looking under the sofa and chairs and between the cushions for the disappearing glasses.

“Let’s make our cookies. You won’t need your glasses for that,” I say.

“I need my glasses.”

Hiding           As I search, I wonder when it became drudgery instead of a job to find things. One of our favorite childhood games was Hide ‘N Seek. I loved being the Seeker, loved the surprise of finding someone in a tucked away, mysterious place. I had a special trick I used when I was “It.” I would close my eyes and say, “If I were Dan, where would I hide?” Then an image would float into my mind and I’d race to the hiding place. Half the time, I was right.

Do I still have “it?” I closed my eyes and say, “If I were Mom’s glasses, where would I be?” The refrigerator comes to my mind. I rush into the kitchen and fling open the refrigerator door, only to see the usual chaos. But I’m hungry, so I reach for an apple. Behind the fruit is a pair of reading glasses, sprawled across the shelf.

Triumphantly, I take the glasses to Mom.

“These feel nice,” she says.

Not only has my mother reminded me of the creative importance of play, but she also discovered a great summer time tip: cool off your glasses.   imgres

Deborah Shouse is the author of Love in the Land of Dementia: Finding Hope in the Caregiver’s Journey.   




Filed under Caregiving, Communication, Creativity, Taking Care of Yourself

2 responses to “The Zen of Playing at Seeking

  1. LOL! Never in a million years would I think of finding glasses in a refrigerator (the seeing kind, that is). You’re so creative!

  2. Debbie Edwards

    Brene Brown defines Play as activity that emerces all of your focus, loosing a sense if time, without a specified outcome or product. Play spawns creativity. You are the out-growth of
    Play! I love your expressions!

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